Illustration by Mark WeberIllustration by Mark Weber

Your parents are getting on in years. They’re definitely slowing down and in need of an occasional hand, a need that will likely only increase with time. They were there when you most needed them, and now it’s your turn to be there for them. This may be the most difficult thing you’ve ever done for someone else. But you’re not alone.

NEW MOBILITY reached out to four wheelers who have dealt with different issues around caring for aging parents while also caring for themselves and others. Here is what they learned.

Advising and Supervising

Christopher Finney, a 65-year-old para in rural Kansas, manages to keep an eye on his mother as best he can. Finney owned an electrical business with his father prior to being knocked out of his truck’s bucket and falling 27 feet. “I didn’t bounce well,” he deadpans. “After dad passed, Mom and I owned the business, and she’d use me as a sounding board. That’s when I noticed her repeating herself a lot.”

They’ve since sold the business.

“The problem is my mother is 85, extremely headstrong and often unaware of having any problems at all,” he says. “Or at least she never mentions any problems. Needless to say, I spend a good deal of time at her place, advising and supervising.”