Throughout our childhood in a small California farm town, my brother Mikey, four years older and my only sibling, was super-protective of me, but at times my worst tormentor. Brothers can be that way, especially early in life — bound by love, yet often at war.
In high school his attention turned to pretty women and fast cars. He married young, at 20, and had two wonderful kids, Steph and Nick. Coincidentally, or perhaps not, the accident that paralyzed me occurred on Mikey’s 24th birthday. From that year forward we celebrated his day of birth and my surviving a plane crash on the same day.
When I was discharged from the hospital, he came to take me home. He taught me to drive with hand controls, and later, showed me how to do wheelies, flopping on his back dozens of times before getting it right. He was also the guinea pig who tested out the homemade lift my dad had built, suspending himself in midair like a load of cargo over a staircase that led to a pool table waiting in the basement.
But Mikey couldn’t protect me from my own weakness — bitterness that led to self-destructive drug abuse — which eventually culminated in my losing control of my life. When my parents made plans to have me committed, Mikey, the only one I could talk to, championed an alternate plan: I would agree to see a private psychiatrist instead.
Three years later he picked me up at the