‘Tis the season for holiday gift lists. For about eight years after my injury in 1985, I was bothered by annual variations of “gift ideas for wheelchair users,” and I couldn’t figure out why. I’d learned to live and thrive as an adventurous T10 para, and would have been thrilled with a gift of, say, […]
It’s always difficult to say how someone’s life will end up after sustaining a spinal cord injury. For Sharina Jones, shot by a neighborhood kid when she was just 5 years old, she holds no ill will towards the boy, or her injury. A self-described “Push Goddess,” Sharina, nearing 30, has transformed into a strong […]
How do you handle the embarrassing situation when a stranger pushes your wheelchair out on the dance floor with your permission?
The way the human brain copes with guilt from disability never ceases to amaze me. They feel bad for us; they walk and we can’t. Yes, it’s a crappy injustice, but you don’t see us bawling over it. Yet for once able-bodied people have gotten it right when it comes to helping out people with […]
When you multiply a number by itself, the result is “squared.” So what happens when you multiply an existing disability with an additional illness or injury? Well, it’s not a simple equation — and often there are exponential results. “It scares the hell out of me! I’ve spent 48 years in a wheelchair, but dealing […]
It was beyond my capacity to imagine that, 13 weeks after my spinal cord injury, the day before I came home from rehab, my father would take his own life.
A recent episode of Push Girls exemplified one of the most frustrating things that can happen when you have a disability – when your parents take it harder than you do. While we may be able to move on after a couple of years, parents often times cannot. Maybe it’s harder to accept from the […]
It ain’t easy looking at yourself in the mirror and loving everything you see. “Hey, I look great!” isn’t usually what comes to mind. And when you have a disability, all the stupid baggage that can come with this label (you know what I’m talking about – feelings of shame, worthlessness, embarrassment) is just so….hard. […]
When AB people talk about being stressed, it takes all the mite I can muster to not laugh in their faces. They may know stress, but they don’t know real stress until they’ve lived a life of a quadriplegic. When you’re dependent on a powerchair for your legs, caregivers to get you out of bed […]
For the past few months I’ve been chronicling my battle with severe infection that eventually led to amputation, but contrary to what I wrote last month, my left leg, Lenny, is not gone forever. Only below the knee. In a moment of self-pity, I exaggerated my loss. In truth, I still have Mini-Lenny to care […]