Is my vagina crippled too?Mar 22 08:41
The title of this blog, a profound string of words that drew me in as a woman with a disability, who has undoubtedly felt unsure of her sexuality, comes from a video from Sins Invalid, an integrated able-bodied/disabled performance project that breaks stereotypes with an incredible unrelenting fierceness I admire. They put on performances that show the world…the universe if you must, that people with disabilities are JUST as sexual as anyone else. Who else has made this tough road their mission, except for Sins Invalid? No one.
Sins Invalid not surprisingly is based out of San Francisco, CA (w00t Californians), and was founded by a bunch of amazing individuals, some with disabilities, some without. I just love that they came together to create a performance troupe based on such a controversial yet admirable mission. It shows what they’re made of, and they’re made of 100% awesome. Why? This is a huge issue in the lives of people with disabilities, and we’ve forever been wanting the world to recognize that PWD aren’t rendered asexual. Theater can do this, man.
Here’s an excerpt of their mission, as stated on their website: “Our performance work explores the themes of sexuality, embodiment and the disabled body. Conceived and led by disabled people of color, we develop and present cutting-edge work where normative paradigms of ‘normal’ and ‘sexy’ are challenged, offering instead a vision of beauty and sexuality inclusive of all individuals and communities.” They’re also LGBTIQ-friendly. <3
Now let’s get back to that crippled vagina thing. It may sound crude, but it’s a great question….a philosophical question. And goddamnit I just love it (to see the performance including this quote, as performed by the exquisite Maria Palacios, click here). No, our sexuality isn’t crippled. It is still as strong, as fevered, and as needy as ever. We crave attention, love, sexual gratification, just like you anyone Some of us may be good at ignoring it, but it’s as alive as ever. Its 2011, and its about time this topic was tackled.
And for women with disabilities (I can’t speak for all of them, only my own 18 years experience as one), we worry…perhaps more than the average woman. We want to prove that we may be unable to walk, but we are just as full of feminine energy as the next woman. And our vaginas are just as awesome. We want everything you do. Don’t we deserve it?
So is my vagina crippled? Only if you’re a jerk.
To discover the amazingness of Sins Invalid, click here.
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1. Sexiest of the Palsies | Mar 25 09:56
LOVE LOVE LOVE this post. "Only if you're a jerk." LOL
2. A. Bailey | Apr 01 07:25
Since 1998 when I was 15, I've been coping with a C-6/C-7 complete SCI. I wasn't a virgin but not very experienced either when I was injured. My sex life at 28 years old is just as active as it should be. Sex is actually one of the best ways to get your blood flowing & your body moving. Also, from what I've been told,a lot of the things we are most afraid of happening are the same as able-body women.
3. Tiffiny | Apr 01 09:12
@ A. Bailey - so true. Sex is without question the best way - next to submerging yourself in a hot tub - to get your legs warm (even if you're on the bottom lulz).
4. Stormi | Apr 12 04:00
I've always been disabled but now that I'm nearing the 40 mark *rolling eyes* .. I find that I feel sexier then ever and maybe that has to do with my very sexy man who can turn me on with his voice among other things.. *laugh* .. You just need the right guy who can appreciate us for the sexy women we are!
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Tiffiny Carlson is freelance writer and writes the “SCI Life” column for New Mobility. She's also a C6 quad from a diving accident that occurred when she was 14 years old. A lifelong resident of Minneapolis, Tiffiny has been a writer in the disability community for over 10 years and writes for several publications and blogs, as well as her personal blog BeautyAbility. Her work has also appeared in mainstream publications such as Nerve.com and Playgirl.