Hello all,
I have been following posts and comments here for some time...and have found perhaps a safe place to ask for some advice. I have been communicating (electronically) for over 6 months with an absolutely wonderful man with SCI. A quad for over 12 years, he has created a very comfortable life rich with family and friends. (We have vetted each other for security and safety purposes to ensure each is who we say we are.) As you can guess, I am falling in love with him. "Mike" is affectionate at times, while at other times indicates he does not want a relationship, but if he changes his mind he will tell me. We are making arrangements to see each other later this year, and he is quite happy about this. I accept the difficulties of the quad life: catheters, bowel programs, the thinness, medical complications, etc. How do I help him understand that I understand this aspect of his life and love him just the same. We talk for hours and confide safely, so we know how to communicate. He is very outgoing and has had a previous relationship in which he was very sexual. She left him for his best friend. Sorry this is so long, but am I just making myself crazy by falling in love with a man who seems to be on the fence so to speak about our relationship??? Thanks for any advice - Miss Tea