#44058 - 07/04/06 08:48 PM
Re: For Lisa
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tippytippy
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didn't zuzan post quite a verbage that perhaps Lola was being held hostage?
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#44059 - 07/04/06 08:52 PM
Re: For Lisa
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tippytippy
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sorry, 'xuxan'. the misspellin came from me thinkin about one of my favorite t.v. show's 'dakTari' and postin at the same time: zebra, zuzan, xtreme, i dunno....
Last episode: Judy Comes Home
Jenny thinks the worst has happened Judy and Clarence disappear from the compound.
Aired: January 15, 1969
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#44060 - 07/04/06 09:39 PM
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*ALBERT-1*
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Loc: East Point,Georgia, USA
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Originally posted by Xuxan:
If I was isolated and wanted to be sure someone knew what was happening to me - I would post on a message board.
If I thought that the community on a message board might convince the person hurting me to stop - I would post on a message board.
If I thought that the person who was hurting me might look at their behavior differently seen black and white on a message board - I would post on a message board.
If I felt desperate and had no where to turn to - I would turn to a message board for help.
If I wanted to hurt the person hurting me in a similar way to how they had hurt me - a messageboard might be the way I chose.
If I wanted the person hurting me to feel just as isolated as I felt, I might post on a message board in hopes that the message board would not support what he was doing and make him feel isolated.
That's what I can think of off the top of my head that would make posting something like Lisa have logic.
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#44061 - 07/06/06 09:23 AM
Re: For Lisa
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FL_Breeze
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Registered: 01/10/05
Posts: 777
Loc: Florida
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Originally posted by sodapop: Originally posted by Xuxan:
Lisa has clearly reported being emotionally abused. Abuse comes in all forms. Emotional abuse can be the most heinous as it is the abuse most difficult to prove.
Xuxan...Please stop. You do not know me or Randy personally and I never posted enough details for you or anyone else here to make unfounded judgement calls regarding Randy, myself or our relationship as it was or as it stands now.
Thank you anyway for your concern!
Have a great day and take care Everyone!
Lisa
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#44062 - 07/06/06 09:32 AM
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goldenplover
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Registered: 06/01/06
Posts: 27
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Originally posted by FL_Breeze:
Thank you Rob!
Xuxan...Please stop. You do not know me or Randy personally and I never posted enough details for you or anyone else here to make unfounded judgement calls regarding Randy, myself or our relationship as it was or as it stands now.
Thank you anyway for your concern!
Have a great day and take care Everyone!
Lisa
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#44063 - 07/06/06 09:32 AM
Re: For Lisa
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FL_Breeze
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Loc: Florida
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Originally posted by flicka: Originally posted by Xuxan:
Lisa has clearly reported being emotionally abused.
Yes, Lisa has clearly been hurt emotionally here, but is that alone abuse in your book? It seems to me that Lisa has reached out to others whenever she has felt emotionally injured, so she recognizes it when it happens.
Lisa
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#44064 - 07/06/06 09:37 AM
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FL_Breeze
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Loc: Florida
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Originally posted by flicka:
* You doubt your judgement or wonder if you're 'crazy'.
She recognizes the problem. I don't consider that abuse.
Lisa
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#44065 - 07/06/06 09:53 AM
Re: For Lisa
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FL_Breeze
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Loc: Florida
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Originally posted by goldenplover: Originally posted by FL_Breeze:
Thank you Rob!
Xuxan...Please stop. You do not know me or Randy personally and I never posted enough details for you or anyone else here to make unfounded judgement calls regarding Randy, myself or our relationship as it was or as it stands now.
Thank you anyway for your concern!
Have a great day and take care Everyone!
Lisa
Have a nice day!
Lisa 
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#44066 - 07/06/06 11:01 AM
Re: For Lisa
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kimberleyb
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Registered: 06/24/00
Posts: 4386
Loc: cripworld
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Originally posted by FL_Breeze: Originally posted by goldenplover: Originally posted by FL_Breeze:
Thank you Rob!
Xuxan...Please stop. You do not know me or Randy personally and I never posted enough details for you or anyone else here to make unfounded judgement calls regarding Randy, myself or our relationship as it was or as it stands now.
Thank you anyway for your concern!
Have a great day and take care Everyone!
Lisa
Have a nice day!
Lisa
It's really me, lisa, not the abuser.. if you don't believe me, just ask me, I'll tell ya..
whatever.. :rolleyes:
this is just so much bullshit
lisa, get help.. before you REALLY need it and no one cares enough to even bother to respond
it is what it is.. you've chosen a loser and you seem to like the garbage that passes for a relationship in your life.. stop bothering everyone with it if that's the case.
if not, DO something.. kick the moron out of YOUR HOUSE.. either that or stfu and just deal with your idiot..
geez
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#44067 - 07/06/06 11:09 AM
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goldenplover
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Registered: 06/01/06
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that's what i thought. randy was in the recent visitor list and then out of nowhere, lisa posts.
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#44068 - 07/06/06 12:30 PM
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casper367
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Registered: 06/07/00
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Loc: tee-pee
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Originally posted by kimberleyb:
if not, DO something.. kick the moron out of YOUR HOUSE.. either that or stfu and just deal with your idiot..
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#44069 - 07/06/06 02:46 PM
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flicka
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Registered: 04/06/00
Posts: 24616
Loc: SLO County, CA - 66.122.77.142
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You can lead a horse to water....
Years ago my husband, Bill, went to the aid of a woman whose husband was slapping her around outside of a bar. While he was busy with the man, the wife hit him upside the head with her purse and nearly knocked him out. 
No wonder cops hate getting called to domestic disputes!
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"A lot of things were acceptable--until we stopped accepting it." -- Al Sharpton '12
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#44070 - 07/06/06 03:06 PM
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kimberleyb
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Loc: cripworld
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I know two police officers who've been shot.. and I know OF one that was shot..
all three were domestic disputes where they were shot by the wife when they tried to take the abusive husband away
the two that I know said flat out that domestic disputes are often the most dangerous calls they get
scary
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#44071 - 07/06/06 07:57 PM
Re: For Lisa
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benchmom
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Registered: 09/16/00
Posts: 1640
Loc: at home here in Canada
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I have been admittedly reading the posts regarding this particular relationship. Although perhaps Susan has provided in some opinions "too much information" the sentiments of many who have posted are genuine and in my opinion valid considering the limited information given. Better too much information than not enough.
In my "mom" opinion I offer that a relationship does indeed require making compromises, like deciding whether you can learn to accept that they squeeze the toothpaste from the top instead of the bottom, that they leave dirty socks beside the bed. It is fair to ask for and expect perhaps changes in behaviour, but changes in attitude are much less likely to be met with success. Accept or decline involvement in this regard. Any relationship that threatens your self worth or self esteem should be disgarded, sooner rather than later. Respect is paramount in a relationship. It is earned and shared, if it is only given on demand it is not respect. Disagreements can allow for interesting debates but there should never be personal insults involved..... it is a good time to educate and learn on both sides. If your partner patronizes or is unwilling to verbalize or listen..... forget it. A purely defensive stance is questionable and personal attacks or verbal assaults are just plain wrong. Usually one who accuses another is of themselves guilty. the pot calling the kettle black. I do hope you are either able to work out this relationship or remove yourselves with egos intact. A short complaint on a message board is not a valid indicator but I do worry and wish you both either a healthy realtionship or respectful parting of ways.
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:rolleyes:
