let me guess...the imprisioning relatioship is more about LOVE and COMITTMENT, right? bullshit! limits (on others) are much more self-serving and about ME ME ME!

frankly, i think you have it backward.

when your wife told you about her interests/desires, WHO WERE YOU THINKING ABOUT when your said, 'fine, go do "your" whatever?' you didn't even listen to her or care what she wanted, you skipped to how it would affect YOU, how YOU felt about it. <--- and you would call that your 'gift' of fidelity?

I use a power chair because dystrophy. My otherwise loving and devoted boyfriend (AB = able bodied) has had an affair citing his loss of sexual attraction to me, and fears of on going celibacy.

I didn't listen to her?
or care what she wanted?

I had been ther sole one working, I tried but couldn't do the field work, travel side of my job any longer after I was hurt, we couldn't afford to keep the house in Florida, the boat had to go, our social life crumbled as I just couldn't cope with the fast paced lifestyle, intimacy took a huge hit. She didn't see why she should have to give up a $200K lifestyle or a healthy sex life when what had happened was my fault. I couldn't disagree with her.

so... I went and purchased $1K in programming manuals, spent 10 hours a day studying and learned a new trade thinking I could start over. But on the personal side I couldn't fix that. The doctors couldn't tell us what to expect wrt my injury, she yearned for the good life, I was scrambling trying to sell clients on how this brain injured guy could manage and quality control their gov't research data bases, the kids were young and deserved attention, the bedroom side of things just wasn't working.

I was the one who fuked up, I tried to fix it but it obviously wasn't enough cause within six months she wanted out and I figured I owed her, so I made it as painless as possible and we split.

I guess you're right Terry, it was all about me.

We have heard Greg's version of the ending of his relationship. I would like his ex-wife's version. It's been several years and I don't think she has sufferred a TBI so I'd think it only fair to hear her version.

I've formed an opinion of Greg's veracity over the 6 or so years he has graced NM with his presence. How about sending me her email addy or phone number by PM, eh Greg?

Bob,
Since this would require giving out her personal contact information I will check with her to see if it is OK. I would think she would love to discuss a marriage that ended 20 years ago with some creepy, demented old gimp from California who spends his time bothering females.

Or you could just ask her to come join NM.

And subject her to the likes of you?

She doesn't associate with riff raff, why do you think she dumped me?