ok let me clarify summin. its one thing for a cpl to talk about wanting to have another person in the mix for whatever reason, the mr and i have no issues bringing in a girl wed both enjoy. but in my opinion if ur partner is saying that ur no longer attractive to them bc ur in a chair, and theyd rather bone sum1 else, but stay with u.. thats pretty damn insulting.whats that say about the person ur with? sex is so important that they have to go elsewhere? if u LOVE someone, truly love, enough to MARRY them or whatever, sex shouldnt be such a big deal that ud have to stray. there is such things as sex toys and foreplay, intercourse isnt the only intimacy that counts, and to think the person ur with isnt gonna be hurt by the notion that they arent enough for u, simply bc they cant get up n bone u or run up a flight of stairs.. i jus find that to be a fcked subject. when i first started getting emotionally entangeled w my mr, i had to think about what the what if's were for the future, such as his junk may stop working one day, he may need me more as a nurse than a woman.. ect ect.. and whether it was worth it to me to be w him given the circumstances. i knew that there could be things i wouldnt like to have to deal with in that respect, but loving him was more special to me than having some other dudes junk in my body.

well, maybe cause I disagree with their point of view, take terry's latest post, I was faced with a similar situation after I went from healthy to whatever the fuk I am now, Terry and his wife worked out a compramsise that worked for them, I chose what I thought was an honourable path and would be best, not just for me, but for our "family", mind you not as much fun as Terry's

that good enough for ya?

I try not to "pick at everyone", just those who come at me

I guess this is as good as it gets

good luck pretty woman

live n let live, choose what will work for YOU and bite ur tongues when it comes to tearing sum1 else down for seeing it differently. jeezuz!

so don't get testy w/us because you make bad decisions! bad!

i'm always very flattered and encouraged when people suggest that bisexuals have no right or reason to ever be in a relationship with anyone.

MrsDrublic anyone can tell sexy is your soul-mate. i hope you two are 4evers.

nice speech, I used to give the same one back in the day when NM was actually alive, what a futile exercise that was, eventually I got fed up, gave up and went sour, along the way I picked up some haters, wouldn't be suprised if some can't resist the opportunity you have presented them with, now I pretty much do and say what I like, when I like and let the chips fall where they may